Life, looking through a cracked windshield

Life, looking through a cracked windshield
the crack keeps getting bigger

Wednesday, June 4, 2025

a reply to a FB post

 

I get where you’re coming from—and maybe that’s why your marriage looks perfect and has lasted forever. Honestly though, this feels more like your personal truth, not some universal rule. Or maybe it’s a subtle dig at someone in particular?

Look, no one’s saying marriage is a nonstop rom-com. It takes two grown adults. People change. Life gets chaotic. Responsibilities stack up. And no, it’s not all candlelit dinners and whispered sweet nothings—it’s mostly blind trust, compromise, and a whole lot of unglamorous effort.

But reading what you wrote comes off pretty one-sided. Heavy on the “give,” light on the “take.” Not everyone’s born knowing how to comfort someone, communicate like a therapist, or clean up someone else’s emotional mess—let alone their metaphorical ass.

Love itself is not the hard part. That’s supposed to be the easy, unconditional part. What’s hard is the grind—the imbalance, the daily tug-of-war. It’s not love that’s complicated. It’s everything else.

But hey, maybe the rest of us just aren’t trying hard enough. If we could just ignore our needs, never get tired, never grow or change, and somehow be perfect partners 24/7… maybe we’d reach relationship nirvana too.

Because clearly, love is simple, Just give endlessly, expect nothing, and if it ever starts to feel one-sided… well, that’s probably just our own fault for not trying harder.

….and maybe I know nothing, I’m just a sarcastic asshole  Ive bee single a long time, you can read  about  it on my FB feed I linked my blogger.

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